父亲的事后烟,我生命中也有过一次相近的经历

我想影片最美的地方在于它在让异性恋也试图去理解他们之间的感情的本质和困境,让人觉得他们偷偷摸摸在做的事情其实反而并没有什么值得羞愧。在接下来,他们开始难舍难分,几乎都黏在一起。在感情和身体上都更加依赖对方。

于是,我想说,这部片更让我感动的是Oliver的父母。

抱歉,撸多了,一开始是很猴急的,但耐着性子看了两个多小时,中途倒带了几处。
    第一印象:这书香门第,这开放程度,只可远观。
    那个暖阳煦煦的夏日,有的不仅是躁动的青春,还有中年人的唏嘘和关心,谈笑有鸿儒,这可能是故事能走向happy
ending的最重要原因了,Elio的父母无疑是睿智的、超前的,片尾父亲的一番话摘录如下”You
had a beautiful friendship. Maybe more than a friendship. And I envy
you. In my place, most parents would hope the whole thing goes away, or
pray that their sons land on their feet soon enough. But I am not such a
parent. In your place, if there is pain, nurse it, and if there is a
flame, don’t snuff it out, don’t be brutal with it. Withdrawal can be a
terrible thing when it keeps us awake at night, and watching others
forget us sooner than we’d want to be forgotten is no bet¬ter. We rip
out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster than we should
that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to offer each
time we start with someone new. But to feel nothing so as not to feel
anything—what a waste!”
“How you live your life is your business. But remember, our hearts and
our bodies are given to us only once. Most of us can’t help but live as
though we’ve got two lives to live, one is the mockup, the other the
finished version, and then there are all those versions in between. But
there’s only one, and before you know it, your heart is worn out, and,
as for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less
wants to come near it. ”
    对电影不作道德评判,本就是各人下雪,何况是高于生活的艺术作品。有个小想法,本片会不会是Elio父亲的一场梦呢,事后烟看似潇洒,经历的故事却不常对外讲,Elio的眼泪,你的眼泪,我的眼泪,在感情生活里流的泪,虽能共情,怕也是五味陈杂吧。
    第一段已空四个字符,不怪我。
    以下为臆想‘,光明节可能是特意设置的,本就是为破旧立新而创设的节日,兽人永不为奴!

终于,到了Oliver要要离开的时候。影片一开始就交代,Oliver只是来暂时帮忙的。影片一开始就告诉观众,一切是不可维持的。

牛竞技电竞官网 ,——You had a beautiful friendship. Maybe more than a friendship. And I
envy you. In my place, most parents would hope the whole thing goes
away, or pray that their sons land on their feet soon enough. But I am
not such a parent. In your place, if there is pain, nurse it, and if
there is a flame, don’t snuff it out, don’t be brutal with it.
Withdrawal can be a terrible thing when it keeps us awake at night, and
watching others forget us sooner than we’d want to be forgotten is no
better. We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster
than we should that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to
offer each time we start with someone new. But to feel nothing so as not
to feel anything—what a waste!”

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在寒冷的阴郁的英国的冬天,真的很感激有这样一部设定在意大利南部夏天的电影。就凭这一点,电影开始的时候,你就像影片中的Elio跳进河中一样,迫不及待自己周围的现实消失了。

“这是你第一天来时候穿的那件衬衫”,一见钟情这个词真美好,很可惜,我没能遇到那么一个人。这辈子都没能与人四目相对便擦出火花。但我懂,那是初恋时候才有的心情。Elio偷偷注视Oliver的眼神总能触动我,眼底带着阳光,无限温柔,眼睛里画着爱的人的样子,还会冒出无数的小心心。爱是藏不住的,就像咳嗽。Elio的炮友看的出来,Elio的父母更清楚,但他们没有当头棒喝,反而轻轻推了一把。

在肢体接触司空见惯,互相亲吻脸颊作为问候的意大利南部,Elio和Oliver无意是有意避免亲密的。一进Elio的房间,Oliver就马上趴在Elio的床上,有意无意地带着某种seduction(诱惑)。而到了晚餐时间,Elio发现Oliver还在睡的时候,没有直接叫他,更没有用手拍醒他,而是选择了假装不小心弄掉了一本书,吵醒了Oliver。电影看完的时候,你会某种程度上觉得Oliver当时在装睡。

“懂,却不说破,是最高的情商,也是世界上最好的善良。”

从头到尾你都感觉不到这两个男孩的恋爱和异性恋的初恋有任何不同。

我说多错话了吗?——那我再说一件事情。让我们开诚布公,我也许曾经接近,但我从来没拥有过你们拥有的。总有些什么在阻挠我,或是挡在我面前。如何过一生是你自己的事情,你只要记住。上天赐予我们赋予我们的身体和心灵只有一次,而在你领悟之前,你的心已经疲惫不堪了。至于你的身体,总有一天,没有人愿意再看他一眼,更没有人愿意接近。现在,你充满了悲伤,痛苦,现在,你别让这些悲伤痛苦消失。也别丧失你感受到的快乐。

当然在观影的时候我一直感叹这个意大利南部,父亲是考古学家的设定。希腊罗马对于男性同性爱的宽容甚至是推崇,还有对男性裸体的崇拜,可以让观众在一开始就把影片带到了某种精神高度。健壮高大睿智的男性和美少年之间的感情很简单,却又不像《断背山》和《月光》中的同性关系那样世俗和悲哀。像希腊神话,像被颂扬的那些肉体和美,某种程度上远离尘嚣的设定,更让人性中最真挚的部分抽离出来,悲伤却又带着一种温暖,就像影片最后做在壁炉前的Elio.

“How you live your life is your business. But remember, our hearts and
our bodies are given to us only once. Most of us can’t help but live as
though we’ve got two lives to live, one is the mockup, the other the
finished version, and then there are all those versions in between. But
there’s only one, and before you know it, your heart is worn out, and,
as for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less
wants to come near it.

作为观众,你几乎能够用自己的手背感受到他们之间的感情的温度,甚至为自己的偷窥感到羞耻。他们之间这样美的感情是属于他们的。我在看什么?

你有一段美好的友谊,也许超过了友谊。我羡慕你。在我看来,多数父母都希望这一切烟消云散。祈祷他们的孩子就此收手。但是——我不是这样的父母,为了快速愈合,我们从自己身上剥夺了太多的东西,以致在三十岁时,自己的感情就已破产。每开始一段新的感情,我们能给予的便更少。但是为了让我们不要有感觉而不去感觉任何事情,是多么的浪费。

我买了票走进影厅的时候,其实有点惊讶一位衣着得体的教授模样的老人已经坐了我的座位。我自己找了别的座位坐,我相信我应该也是占了别人的座位。不过,其实看电影,不就是为了在意识上跟人短暂地交换身份吗?

你们俩相得益彰,在最猝不及防之时上天狡诈的找到了我们最脆弱的地方。你只要记住,我在这里。现在你可能不去想感受什么,或你从来不希望感受什么。或你不愿意向我倾吐这些事情,但是——请你感受你所感受的。

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